Full-Length Stories from My Clients
“Suddenly, so much is possible… it works”
Fourteen years ago, in 1996, I collapsed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome following a respiratory flu. I was horribly ill, mostly bed-ridden for the first couple of years. My condition slowly improved over the next five years.
Then, I had a serious and in some ways worse relapse in 2003. Again, my condition slowly improved, but I remained very limited in my activities, unable to walk even around the house at a normal pace without inducing intense fatigue the following day, nor could I lift anything even slightly heavy. I really could not do anything even remotely aerobic. I was easily and deeply fatigued by ordinary stressors, and I was very sensitive to the sun and had to wear a hat at all times in the sun or I would suffer from inflammation and terrible headaches.
I had heard about the Lightning Process from my husband’s niece several years ago, and I had seen how well she was doing as a result of that training, but because she was so much younger than I, (she is now in her late 20’s and I’m in my middle 50’s) and because she did the Lightning Process a couple of years after she became ill and I had been ill for so long, I convinced myself that whatever it was that had helped her probably wouldn’t help me.
Then, last summer I took another dive in terms of the illness. During that period my husband and I visited his family and I spent sometime around my healthy happy athletic niece. I started looking closely at the Lightening Process website, which led me to Berit Frivold, the Lightning Process trainer in the United States. I contacted her and from the start she was terrific.
Respectful and clear in instructing me in how to proceed and setting up a date to attend a workshop as soon as possible in Loma Linda, California, where she is based. Berit was kind, thoughtful, encouraging and also firm in her instructions. The entire workshop was run efficiently at the same time that every effort was made to ensure the comfort and well-being of participants. Berit has continued to be supportive during the past five weeks since the workshop, as well.
Here is the good news. On the last day, I left the workshop walking at a normal pace and carrying my heavy bag without any help and I felt fine the next day and the next, and so on. I will never ever forget the way I felt walking through the airport with a swing in my step to meet my husband. Such a liberation! This alone was cause for great joy. Then, a week later, I hiked up a steep trail in the mountains to an aspen grove I had not been able to walk to in eight years and I did so at a normal pace. The following weekend, I hiked two and half miles up a very steep trail to a lake (plus the two and half miles back down) — it was a hike I had been unable to do in fourteen years!
Once I accomplished those two feats, I took on the sun and slowly over a period of about two weeks, I built up my system to where I am no longer wearing my hat. This is the real proof to me that the Lightening Process works. I am now walking about a mile in the sun everyday and at a normal pace, and sometimes I walk two miles. All of this is tremendously exciting to me and to my husband and the friends who watched me suffer for so long.
When I was first considering trying the Lighting Process, I found the fee for the workshop to be prohibitive. Now, experiencing the results, the cost of the workshop seems like mere pennies. Suddenly, so much is possible. Doing the Lightning Process is not easy, it requires tremendous commitment, but it works. Thank you Phil Parker. Thank you Berit!
In October 2011 I traveled to California to learn the Lightning Process with Berit Frivold.
At that point I’d had CFS for about 12 years and I had tried almost every treatment out there – from Antibiotics to Zen. Although much of what I did had helped, I was still sick, I was still suffering, and my life was still disintegrating. To say that I felt desperate is an understatement. Berit and Lightning Process seemed like the last hope.
Three days later at the end of the training I was transformed. I was able to function at a level that was inconceivable just a week before. I returned to New York and started to build my life again. And I’m still building.
Berit is kind and compassionate, supportive and empowering, resourceful and reasonable. She taught me the process and then supported me for months as I learned to integrate it into my day-to-day life. When I forget to do the process, what to do, or how to do it, she’s there with patience and understanding, reminders, and encouragement. Berit and the Lightning Process have given me life back. I am grateful beyond measure.
New York, NY
The Lightning Process has become an invaluable part of my daily life now.
After a highly stressful time in my life, I found myself barely able to get out of bed most days due to fatigue. The simplest tasks were exhausting. Life basically ground to a halt and I couldn’t see a way out. When the doctor diagnosed me with CFS and said there was no treatment available, I eventually found a naturopathic doctor that was able to help me make significant improvements. But even several years of treatment later I remained heavily affected by fatigue and the emotional pit that accompanies feeling so limited by it.
When I heard about the LP through a friend, I read up on it, got in touch with Berit with my questions, and signed up for a training with her.
Using the LP, Berit explained the scientifically-proven power of the mind-body connection and how to use it to influence my thoughts, emotions, and physical health. The LP gave me tools to spot the emotional and mental pitfalls I was creating for myself that were sabotaging my recovery, to interrupt them, and to consciously redirect myself toward a better outcome.
Now I use the LP every day, sometimes many times a day, as an automatic part of life. My physical health and energy have made a big leap forward since then and continue to improve. I have a new awareness of my ability to direct my own emotions and thoughts instead of letting them dominate me. As a result, I feel calmer, healthier, more energetic, and more capable of creating a life I love.
Berit’s compassionate and skilled mentoring in the LP continues to have a cascading affect nearly a year later on my family, my business, and my church, as I model and share these simple yet powerful principles for creating rapid change.
Thank you, Berit!
When I signed up to do the Lightning Process training with Berit, I really wasn’t sure exactly what to expect. I had heard several first-hand stories from long-time sufferers of CFS/ME who had reclaimed their lives in remarkable ways after doing the Lightning Process and, even though I did not have this issue, I was eager to find ways to become more confident and to live my life more expansively. I had an intuitive feeling that the training would be very worth my while — and I wasn’t disappointed! What I learned during the three days I spent with Berit has been life-changing for me, and I suspect that I will forever divide life into pre- and post-Lightning Process because the changes have been, and continue to be, so profound. Not only did Berit help me understand that I COULD influence my life in positive ways I hadn’t previously imagined, but she also showed me HOW to do that, consistently and reliably, which is extraordinarily empowering knowledge to have. Berit was able to demonstrate very clearly why the Lightning Process is so effective, by explaining the science of neuroplasticity upon which it is based, and I found this to be a compelling and inspiring foundation upon which to build the rest of the training. As a trainer and coach, Berit is very skilled, deeply compassionate and enthusiastically dedicated to her work; and I’m grateful to her commitment to follow-up with me to make sure that I was using the Process correctly so that I could benefit as much as possible from all that I learned. More than a year after taking the training, I continue to be amazed at how much easier, richer and more joyful my life has become with these transformational tools. I can’t help but imagine how the world could be transformed if everyone had access to this powerful, life-changing teaching.
At the age of 45, having endured the stress of working two intense real estate marketing businesses for two years, and finally deciding to cut it back to just one, I took a vacation to the British Isles with my wife as a way of marking the transition. I celebrated being in my ancestral Ireland by having a cold glass of Guiness Stout in a small country hotel. However I noticed that even though I enjoyed the taste of it, the alcohol felt like poison in my body and I didn’t finish it. That was strange. Returning to the US, I felt like I had jet lag for a long time, for weeks, until I suspected that something else was wrong.
This was the beginning of enduring almost ten years of chronic fatigue, during which time I suffered a daily feeling of being drained of energy, weak and physically depressed, and often brain fog all day long. Very difficult for a high achiever such as myself. I managed to basically function, but my leisure time was usually confined to resting to recover my energy, and also I would have regular bouts of severe fatigue where I could not get out of bed for a whole day, sometimes more. It was quite miserable. The quality of my life from a health perspective, to put it plainly, sucked. I tried countless remedies both allopathic and alternative, spending many thousands of dollars in the process. You name it, I probably did it. My health improved on the margins, but the fatigue continued. “Was this going to be the rest of my life?” This very depressing question arose. I didn’t even want to ask it, let alone answer it.
Then, one day, a new friend and business contact, mentioned a friend of hers that had been able to get over chronic fatigue after 25 years. I spoke to her friend, and she told me about the Lightning Process. I researched it on the internet and read the book by the founder, Phil Parker, and attended a 3-day workshop with Berit Frivold in Southern California, the only instructor in the whole of the US.
Taking this workshop and learning to do the Lightning Process, was like finding a path into the light out of the dark frustration that was my fatigue. I came to see that I was stuck in a pattern, essentially created out of my frustration and struggle, and even despair, with my negative health condition. However, this struggle with the condition was only reinforcing it and it was not allowing the true healing that would take me into another condition of health. This was a humbling realization, but the miracle of it, was that if it was my own creation, I could also solve it. But it still took work. This pattern of fatigue was a neurological condition that I had been doing for almost ten years and had a momentum to it. I would have weekly video calls with Berit whilst doing the process several times daily. She would gently encourage me to stick with it, even if I felt that it wasn’t immediately producing the relief I was hoping for, and others had quickly obtained, showing me how it was working in small ways, and encouraging me into an orientation that was positive. Her guidance was essential.
One day, after about four weeks of frequent daily practice, it was like I suddenly woke up in a different and new room than I had gone to sleep in the night before, and which I had been living in for years. It was a room without fatigue, free of that whole pattern, a bright and fresh new room that enabled me to function and live without that constant drain of weakness and dullness that had been with me for far too long. Now the process had broken through to the other side. Since that time, now some four months later, I have continued to be largely free of the fatigue sensation that dogged me for so long. It is even flabbergasting to me that such a straightforward process would make such a difference, after all the other remedies I attempted. I have done the Lightning Process exercise just a few times since, when I have felt the fatigue sensation return, but it has been only for a short period and the process would quickly reassert itself. I was just not going back there, to that dark struggle. No way. There is a different way to live.
Now, the physical condition that underlay the fatigue is still there to be dealt with. I do get tired when I exert myself, and I have to be careful not to push myself so hard, and I continue to be an insomniac, but that is different from the sensation of the chronic fatigue. The realization is that the world is psycho-physical, and we participate in it that way, mind and body coinciding in producing good health. They are a continuum. I am not a victim of my health, but I am a conscious participant that must take responsibility for balance and purification in my life in all things, both mind and body. This is the secret of good health.
The conventional approach to health is to go to some authority who will give you something to take, or do something to you, whilst charging you handsomely for it, all the time not making any real expectation or demand on you to take responsibility for the maintenance of your own health. This is limited and as far as addressing my chronic fatigue, completely ineffective.
The Lightning Process is intriguingly simple, but it has been effective in my case and because it has made a huge difference in my life for the better, I am more grateful than I can say to Berit, Phil Parker, and my friends who made me aware of it.
This is my story. I have had fibromyalgia for at least 30 years, with many associated medical conditions, aches, pains, limitations, restrictions, but I did function, and achieved. With a lot of physical therapy, massage, bodywork, psychotherapy, schedule adjustments when possible, support and self-education.
I was a practicing psychiatrist when I became more symptomatic around 2003. Eventually I was diagnosed with hyperparathyroidism and had surgery to remove 2 benign parathyroid adenomas (tumors).
Technically the surgery went well, the hyperparathyroidism resolved and some of the related symptoms improved, but in another way I never really recovered from the surgery. After the surgery I was completely unable to achieve a pre-existing level of energy and functioning. In fact my fatigue was different than anything I’d ever experienced before, even with the fibromyalgia, and was quite debilitating. My cognitive impairment was quite severe. Additionally, the recurrent respiratory infections I’d had worsened and would knock me out for weeks. I also had multiple chemical sensitivities. I had developed chronic fatigue syndrome.
I had to close my psychiatry practice and was completely unable to work. I then spent the next 7 years sick; initially bed-bound at times, searching for ways to get better. Several things were helpful: nutritional changes, pacing, mind-body re-training programs such as amygdala re-training, reverse therapy, Dr. Richard Hermann approach; acupuncture, Barral bodywork, lots of reading, self-educating, and behavioral changes. I made gradual, minor and significant improvements over this time period, but would always hit a plateau with troubling exertional and post-exertional malaise.
Eventually I found out about Phil Parker’s Lightning Process. From the moment I began reading the website, then his book, I felt optimistic that I could use this training process to get my health and life back. I suspended any possible skepticism; I so wantedto get better – and I did. I got better! I did the reading and the preparation with my practitioner, Berit Frivold, and was able to travel to attend the training. It was an intensive one-on-one for 3 days. It was successful.
From right after the training, to now, 6 months later, I no longer have chronic fatigue. No severe post-exertional malaise. No severe cognitive impairments. I am able to exercise more regularly, slowly building up the strength I had lost. I am active every day.
I no longer take rest breaks automatically. I need more reasonable amounts of sleep.
I no longer plan days off before and after activities or travel.
I can use LP to transition from activities and from rest breaks when I need one, and as a result can more consistently increase my activity and productivity, Whereas before LP I might do one activity then rest for hours.
My nutritional needs are stabilized. I no longer have the hypoglycemia type symptoms or intense protein needs in order to think clearly. I am finally able to maintain a weight loss regimen I have been struggling with for several years.
I still have some mild-moderate fibromyalgia symptoms at times, but they do not prevent me from having a full life now, and I continue to use LP to address and improve them. (along with other minor treatments). It takes time, patience and work to adjust to all these changes, but I have my life back. and its nothing less than extraordinary.
It’s now been more than a year since I attended the training, and I am doing better than I had dared to hope.
My quest for healing began a long time ago. I suffered from a progressive syndrome called Multiple Chemical Sensitivity (MCS) andalso Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (ME/CFS). I had developed a hypersensitivity to a variety of scents and fumes to the point that I often had to wear a protective mask.
With the worsening of symptoms came gradual loss of work, friends and quality of life. A friend of mine told me of the Lightning Process. That is how I found Berit.
She patiently coached me pre-flight, as being out in the world is a great challenge for someone with severe MCS. I had to travel to California in order to attend the three day training. After those three days the fatigue had melted away! I was astounded that I could travel for up to three hours without my mask on the plane home. Upon arrival I declined the use of a wheel chair and walked out to greet my sister who was astounded to see me feeling so well.
With Berit’s continued support, patience and guidance I continue to improve. It’s now been more than a year since I attended the training, and I am doing better than I had dared to hope.
Health is a treasure. I am so thankful that Berit and the Lightning Process have helped me regain mine.
“Trying the Lightning Process was the best decision of my life”
I developed CFS (chronic fatigue syndrome) at the age of 20 after having a severe case of mono.
I was sick for 2 years before I was even diagnosed in 2012. I had been run through every test in the book, in and out of hospitals, from doctor to specialist to doctor, only to be told that nothing was wrong. It must all be in my head or stress related. I was so discouraged that I eventually struggled with some depression and anxiety because I was in my early 20s, full of life and potential, but I couldn’t act my age. I couldn’t even hold down a job. I was often bed ridden when I was going through a flare-up which lasted for an unpredicted amount of time. I was hospitalized for random infections which required intravenous pain meds and antibiotics. All my symptoms were very basic and broad.
Here is a list of a few that I struggled with on a daily basis; nausea, lack of concentration and memory, hot flashes, chest pains, extreme fatigue and weakness, trouble sleeping, muscle aches, low appetite, sore/swollen lymph nodes and tonsils, etc. After my diagnosis I was so happy to have an answer because now I knew what I was up against. I did much research and found out that there is not much information about CFS causes and treatments. I had trusted the regular medical system to help me, but they couldn’t.
My mother heard about the Lightning Process from a couple at church and how their daughter had CFS at the age of 16 years old and now is fully cured! I knew I had to try this and it was the best decision of my life.
I can honestly say that Berit and the Lighting Process gave me my life back. The number one thing I learned from this experience is that in I am ultimately in control of the way I respond to the challenges in my life. Not only how I feel and how I treat my body, but how I think and what I believe. I became determined not to be a victim for the rest of my life and I was done pitying myself. Here I am 5 years later, working 30hrs a week, living on my own, doing yoga and hiking every weekend, experiencing and loving life with a new appreciation. I have come to realize that ‘health is your true wealth’. My CFS was a blessing in disguise because it has taught me so much. I have never been so in tuned with my thoughts and my body in my life. The Lighting Process is so empowering not only for people with diseases, but for everyone!
It’s not only useful for my recovery, but so many aspects of life ~ helping me create a life I love.
After 4 years of pushing through as hard as I could, I became housebound and mostly bedbound. After seeing more than 15 doctors and specialists, I finally got the diagnosis of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome…and was told by the Infectious Disease doctor who diagnosed me, that though this illness was real and not in my head, there was nothing he, or the medical community, could do for me.
It was a dark and devastating time. It felt my life had been stolen…going from an active mom and wife who loved to exercise, snow ski, and scuba dive ~ to someone who had to use whiteboards and sign language to speak to her family, and who virtually lived in a dark bedroom, rarely seeing friends or anyone outside my family. The world and life was passing on without me, and I despaired.
Somehow in that darkness, I held on. And eventually, I began to find on line resources that helped me. I found there were others suffering as I was, and even a few who had recovered. This gave me hope. Through some programs developed by others who had recovered, I learned how to listen to my body. I learned how to start moving again…beginning with a 3 minute walk, and working up to a ten minute walk over the course of an entire year. I learned what supplements could aid my recovery, and how to create a baseline of activity.
My health began improving, though I was still very limited ~ getting out of the house once or twice a week for short outings. But every percent of improvement told me I was going to get what I was after ~ full recovery.
About that time, I joined an on line community, and suddenly discovered many people who had fully recovered through the Lightning Process. Though it had long been on my list to try, I didn’t know exactly what it was. But now, with such enthusiasm from those who had trained in it, I knew it was something I needed to do. I had to get my life back.
I contacted Berit, and we set up the training. She graciously came to me, as we live in the same state. For 3 days, we trained. I can’t say the neuroplasticity concepts were new to me ~ but the way the process is put together pulled these abstract concepts I was aware of, and put them into an elegant package that I could use effectively on a daily basis. Going from “concept to application.”
I was concerned because I had heard of people who had crashed through using LP, by overriding their body’s signals. But working with Berit over the course of that year, she encouraged me to gently take new ground, listen to my body, and use the process to on “deep calm and rest”, so my body could deeply heal.
Fast forward a year and a half later. I have traveled through Europe, snow skied, and scuba dived. I still use all the tools I learned prior to LP, and yet I believe LP has accelerated my recovery, and even accelerated the benefits of my other health tools. I still use it every day. And it’s not only useful for my recovery, but so many aspects of life ~ helping me create a life I love.
If you’re suffering from CFS ~ LP can be a valuable tool to ignite, and accelerate your recovery. Berit is an outstanding, gentle practitioner who will support you and guide you with wisdom. I’m so very thankful God brought her into my life to help lead me out of such a devastating illness.
LP for chronic pain
Cali: “I was diagnosed with Complex Regional Pain Syndrome CRPS in the fall of 2013 after shoulder surgeries from swimming injuries. My right arm would frequently swell and turn purple. It was so incredibly painful that I could barely use it. CRPS was a terrible diagnosis to get.
My doctor told me that he’d rather diagnose a terminal illness ‘because at least then there would be an end to the pain.’
It took heavy doses of opioids to get through college. When the pain started to spread into my neck and shoulder I tried Calmare treatment, which did give me some temporary relief. But very soon after I started graduate school, the pain increased back to the 6-8 range and my life was truly miserable with no relief from the many other treatments I tried.
That’s when my mom discovered the Lightning Process. I was quite interested in neurology and neuroplasticity and read everything I could about the LP. I decided it was worth a try. The very first day of the seminar I got my pain down to lower levels, and by the end of the week it was consistently around a 1-2 – something I hadn’t experienced for over a year and a half by that point. For the first few months I would freak out every time my arm accidentally bumped something, expecting the pain to come back. But even in the few instances when my pain did increase slightly, I had the tool to manage it, to re-track my brain.
I got my life back from the LP! My mom, who spent countless hours looking for anything that might help me, got her life back too. And now I’m rock climbing most weekends, waterskiing and snow skiing. And the best part of all is hanging out with the people I love without having to pretend I’m not in excruciating pain…”
Missy, Cali’s mother writes:
“There is nothing worse than watching your child hurt and being powerless to help. Thanks to the Lightning Process and Berit, Cali is now leading a normal life now and I am so thankful to the LP for giving her the tool to heal from this horrible condition.”